You will know you have a spirited child in your midst, if you have one. Read more on my blog: lulastic.co.uk
You have been through the wringer and have spent whole days thinking you must be a terrible, terrible parent to be raising such a bombastic human.
They are completely themselves in all their wild beauty, but this wild beauty jars against societal norms and expectations. They WON’T be quiet in the library, in fact, they might even take their volume to a new level because their whole mind and body is just urging them to do it. They WON’T sit in the toddler seat in the trolley at the supermarket; they want to tear up and down the aisles. They WON’T sit up at the dinner table, they can’t sit still and they don’t like that food and they want to be clear about how you should only ever cook pasta and broccoli, they especially want to be REALLY clear about that to sensitive old Grandpa, who slaved all afternoon on a Shepard’s Pie.
I have a very spirited child, my firstborn, Ramona. First this made me feel like a terrible parent. I felt like she was uncooperative and it must be a result of my lack. I felt every public tantrum as a verdict on my poor skills. It is not only my perception, either. I have been judged as a parent as a result of Ramona’s refusal to do something she was asked to do. What a joy it would be to say:
I felt judged, but now I realise that everyone understands that some children just happen to be hardcore rebels and every knows parent are all just trying to do their best!!
The truth is that society does judge parents when their children don’t conform to expectations and we must stop that. PLEASE. Can we stop that? A spirited child is not an indication of poor parenting.