I’m Lorraine one of the Parent Helpers here in the Channel Mum Groups.
I’m so sorry about your loss, that mustv’e ben such a shock finding out you were pregnant and then heartbreaking when it came to an end. I can’t imagine how you felt after being unsure if you could get pregnant. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all of that.
Loosing a baby is such a traumatic experience that sadly so many go through. For each person their journey is different. You have to deal with it in your own way, by doing and expressing your feelings in ways that comfort you. You don’t have to stop yourself from crying, it’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be angry too. It’s so hard seeing friends/family becoming pregnant around you after a loss. I remember that feeling too. It becomes easier in time but it’s like a punch in the gut that you don’t have what you dream of.
Your period and the bleeding is most likely a trigger, it’s a reminder of what happend, what is not and it hurts. When you period comes just try to take it easy and be extra kind during those days during.
Do you have someone you feel comfortable talking with? Family, friend, partner? It’s good to talk about things with your loved ones. Let them be there for you if you can, or continue to talk to us. You don’t have to go through this alone.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, you’ve been through something huge and there is no timescale on grief. If you ever feel like everything is to much then you can go to your GP and enquire about any support they may be able to offer you.
Sending lots of love,