In this clip from Loose Women, the panel discuss whether it is wrong to call a child ‘gorgeous’. This follows an incident where a father complained when a stranger complimented his daughter. The father’s response was that it ruins children by calling them gorgeous.
The panel discuss whether calling a child gorgeous is a compliment or an insult to their personality, as the term ‘gorgeous’ is drawing attention to the child’s looks rather than the compliment focusing on how smart they are. They argue this is something we seem to do with girls rather than boys. We tend to comment on a girl’s looks rather than telling them they are brave or strong.
The panel discuss whether in fact damage can be done either way and question whether not commenting on a child’s looks can give them a negative message and leave them wondering whether they are attractive or not. If you are never told you look nice, will you ever think you do? A Channel Mum member recently shared a similar incident happening to her daughter, read more here.
Watch the full Loose Women video below:
Both adults and children can react differently to receiving, or not receiving, compliments. For parents it can be hard to know what the right balance is and exactly how this can affect confidence and self-esteem. We may naturally refer to daughters as beautiful and sons as strong. Some children are more sensitive to compliments and remarks than others. If you have concerns about your child, please do seek support and advice from our experts in our Support Groups.
Adults too can feel uncomfortable about receiving complements and not know how to respond. Whereas others find complements reassuring and a boost to self-esteem. A lot of it can depend how we feel about ourselves and how comfortable we are in our own skin. We have a mental health course if you have areas of your mental health you want to work on, plus lots of inspiring videos on body positivity.
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