Is it wrong to want an only child?

In this clip from This Morning, Ruth and Eamonn are joined by two mums with very different views on family size, to discuss whether choosing to have an only child is wrong.

Mum of one Samantha Lenihan, described as the epitome of family planning, was sterilised at the age of 30. Tara Howard has four children and believes that having only one child is unfair. She believes it’s selfish not to give an only child a sibling arguing that the bond they will have throughout their lives can’t be replaced.

They also discuss the expense of childcare costs for big families compared to those with a single child, the support siblings can give each other and whether having more than one child means having the share between your children.Have these issues impacted your own decisions on the amount of children you are having? You can share your reasons you have the number of children you do with other mums here.

See the full discussion in the video below:

Do you need support on your parenting journey?

Here at Channel Mum we support all mums regardless of how many children you have. So whether you have decided to have one child or lots of children, we’ll support you on every step of the journey, whichever route you choose to take. Please do chat to experts in our Support Groups for help, information and advice.

Is family planning something you’re thinking about?

We’ve got lots of videos and advice on trying for a baby, and information on contraception if you’re not.

Not sure what family size is right for you? Wondering if only-child syndrome really exists? Chat to experts and parents in a similar position over in our Support Groups.

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Should my undercarriage really look like that?

In the clip from This Morning, Phil and Holly chat to Dr Zoe about labiaplasty – more commonly known as designer vaginas. A designer vagina is a term used for changing the appearance of the vulva rather than the vagina and Dr Zoe explains that as women age or after they have children their skin can age and change. The procedure started out as purely a medical treatment but nowadays some women can feel insecure about their bodies which can lead to them seeking out the treatment. It has become simpler and cheaper to have a labiaplasty and so it has become more of a trend.

Dr Zoe goes on to explain that there is a skewed perception in society of what is considered normal and shows examples in the video below:

Are you worried about the appearance of your vulva?

If you have concerns over what your body looks like after having children and as you get older, please do chat to experts in our Support Groups. They are there to provide reassurance and will let you know if it is worth talking to your GP.

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Are parents too lazy to potty train?

In this clip from This Morning, Phil reports that 70% of schools are saying there is an increase in the number of 5 year olds starting school in nappies. Some experts are blaming parents for this rise, saying that parents themselves are too lazy to teach their children to potty train. Parents however feel that there isn’t enough support and help when they are trying to toilet train their children and there should be more support available.

Mum of two, Hannah feels that although she got advice from her Health Visitors, this was inconsistent because she saw a different one every time. She feels the advice given plus her daughter starting nursery and being made to wear pullups lead to her child being upset and ultimately suffer with constipation. Toilet Training Expert Amanda Jenner agrees that Hannah felt pressured to force toilet training on her daughter when she wasn’t ready.

Watch this clip to find out the support Hannah has got and what advice Amanda has for her:

Need help potty training your child?

Here on Channel Mum we have a Potty Training section which is full of videos from other mums and advice for parents going through this. You can also watch our Potty Training tips video, by mums who have been there and gone through it too. Ask our experts and talk to other mums in our Mum SOS help boards.

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Got a favourite child? Should you admit it?

Do you have a favourite child or do you love all of your children the same? Mum of four Alisha Tierney-March recently appeared on This Morning and openly says to Phil and Holly that she prefers her third child over the others – giving her preferential treatment and showing her more affection.

Statistics mentioned on the show state that one in five mothers actually admit they have a favourite offspring – are they breaking the ultimate mother taboo? Share your thoughts on this debate in the Channel Mum Chat Groups now.

Watch more videos from Phil and Holly on the This Morning YouTube Channel.

Coping with Sibling Rivalry

Brothers and sisters fighting is something that happens to a lot of parents and it can happen for many reasons including personality clashes, resentment or even bullying at school. In these videos about siblings parents talk about how they have dealt with it and what techniques they have found helps.

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The Hidden Epidemic of Extreme Thoughts after Baby

Channel Mum founder, Siobhan Freegard OBE was on This Morning discussing the recent Channel Mum survey which found that nearly half of new mums suffer extreme or disturbing thoughts, as well as 64% stating that they would never seek help. Siobhan was joined on the sofa by vlogger Jem Armistead who shares how she overcame these anxieties and is speaking out to help end the stigma for other mums. If this is a subject that has affected you, know that you are not alone. There is a wealth of support and help on Channel Mum. Start by taking our Mums Mental Health Quiz to see how you are doing. Our short quiz is designed to see how you are really feeling and the results may surprise you. We also have experts in our support group including our health visitor Maggie, our psychologist in residence Emma Kenny and our trained parent helpers. We also have a full video course, podcasts and supporting materials to help.

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‘I Disagree with The Way My Daughter Parents her Children’

Did your parents and grandparents do things very different from the way you parent? Perhaps they criticise you for your choices? In this This Morning phone in, Deidre Sanders offers advice to callers. Should it be granny’s rules in granny’s house or should a parent’s rules apply everywhere?

Watch more parenting and relationship videos here and chat to other mums. 

This video is taken from This Morning – every weekday on ITV from 10:30am.

My Husband Sleeps Alone So I Can Breastfeed Our Five-Year-Old

Mum Sophie Mei Lan believes breastfeeding her five-year-old strengthens the bond between herself and daughter Jasmine. Sophie, who also has a two-year-old daughter, sleeps with her girls every night so they can latch on to feed on demand and fall back to sleep. But Sophie’s controversial parenting practice leaves husband Chris sleeping alone in their marital bed every night. Sophie and Chris join Holly and Phillip on the sofa to explain all.

Watch more videos on feeding your baby and chat to other mums in the Channel Mum Support Groups.